Just like the computer sitting in front of you your mind has default settings. Default settings are the truths that you unconscious mind have that keep you where you are in life on all levels. Until you change these default settings you will stay where you are. Your unconscious mind is connected through source, the universe, with everyone else's unconscious mind and that is why situations and people keep you where you are by default.
So in order to change the default settings you have to have some will power to reprogram your unconscious mind to a new set of defaults. At first you will run into some obstacles because your unconscious will try to keep you from changing these but if done consistently the reprogramming will happen and Taa Dah you are living life with a new default setting and others around you unconsciously lift you up to a new level along with your unconscious mind.
Techniques for changing... You have to put new positive truths/defaults into your unconscious mind by using your conscious mind to visualize and affirm that situations are already truth or real in your life. The great thing about the unconscious mind is that it doesn't know if things are real or pretend so it takes it as truth and sets it as default when played over and over. Just like when you were a kid and you heard your parents arguing about bills and the financial struggles over and over again. That then became truth to your unconscious mind and your default setting. So to change it to a new truth will take some time and new habits. You will show your unconscious mind pretend visualizations, coupled with affirmations of things that are in present tense and feelings of being there now that will trick it into setting a new default.
First decide what new default settings your want to be at. Do you want more money for a better lifestyle? Do you want a job that you enjoy? Do you want a better relationship with those around you? Figure it out and get ready to change your settings.
Write it down in present tense like it has already happened. Oh and trow a little happiness and gratitude in there for good measure. I Shelly am so happy and grateful now that I am receiving abundance in all aspects by showing others how to change their lives for the better.
Now turn that affirmation into a visual. What does that look like to you? Are you working your dream job? Is your bank account full of money? Are you reconnecting with your spouse? Close your eyes and make a mental movie of what that looks like.
Add feeling to the vision. Feelings are what you have that really embed into your unconscious mind so while you are writing the affirmation and visualizing the experience you have to get emotional about it so your unconscious recognizes it as truth and starts to reset your default to bigger and better.
Repeat this daily, once in the morning and once int he evening. I like to write that affirmation several times, 5 to 10, and then sit quietly and visualize the experience and feeling it.
Sometimes you will see results right away sometimes it will take weeks or a month to start to see things turn around. The more believable it is to you the faster it will happen. So if you want more money in your bank account and you visualize having millions it will be a while before you convince the unconscious of that but if you just up it by $1000 for now you will see that a lot sooner. So keep it small at first and then grow it bigger and bigger.
Most important have fun with it and turn it into a daily habit and watch as your life starts to change for the better.