Saturday, September 26, 2015

Going With Your Strengths.

Going With Your Strengths. 

What does that mean? Well it means work with what you are good at. For instance, I am great at explaining how you can make a happier life. This comes easy to me because I am passionate about it and live my life according to it. Now if I take that same effort and try to sell you on life insurance (I have tried this) I won't do so good. I am not passionate about life insurance and I don't live my life by it.

So the key, obviously is to find what you are good at. This can be as easy as you allow it to be. First what are you passionate about? Do you enjoy teaching your dogs new tricks and think about training dogs? Do you love data entry and organizing office systems? There is something that every one of us is good at.. oh and that we enjoy. You have to enjoy what you are doing.

Does this mean that you won't be challenging yourself? No you will be challenging yourself in a huge way.

Lets talk about Deflection. Deflection is something we do to avoid something else. Mine was Real Estate. I want to do this.. what I am typing about. Teaching, Mentoring and Guiding others to a happier life but that felt scary and I was unsure if I would fail or lose control of the class like I did when I gave it a try several years ago. So instead of diving into what I really wanted to do I struggled for a year and half to get my real estate license. Hurdling over financial and mental blocks to reach the goal. Went to two different companies to find out I hated it and what I really wanted to do was help turn other agents around by helping them realize their own potential. Not sell houses.

So in order for me to do what I really want to do I have to open myself up to a new way of doing things. My Way. Yeah I have to be vulnerable and know that I can do it my way and it will attract the right people to listen to what I have to say. I have learned that to do this I have to be ok with that fear of what others might think of me and accept it. We all have opinions about each other, it's human nature so we have to wallow around in that fear, accept it and then do what we really want and need to do.

So the question of this post is.. What are you doing to deflect what your are passionate about?

Oh and what are your strengths? What are you really good at that you want to share or just do. Put the wheels in motion in that direction. Just a step at a time.

And another IMPORTANT thing is don't feel like you have to fix yourself. Just get better at being you. Get comfortable with who you are and do what you want to do. Make it a huge part of your life. Jump those big hurdles just as intensely as you did when you were finding something to deflect with.

Friday, September 25, 2015

How to Get More Money. 

So it's something we all want more of. Whether we are wanting it to help others or God forbid get more stuff for ourselves. We want it.

So the first step is to change how you think about money.. Have you heard this before? Yeah me too. So here is the beef of that simple, yet mostly useless suggestion. The beef is.... What do you think about when you think about money? Is it abundance and plentifulness? Or is it I don't have enough and I need more. Lack.

So there is the beef. When Donald Trump thinks about money. Yeah I brought him into it. Regardless of how you feel about his political views the man is filthy rich. Ok back to what he thinks about money. Do you think, he thinks... Oh hell, how am I going to pay the rent this month or how am I going to come up with the money for braces for Suzy? Nope.. He is thinking where is my next million coming from. Rent and braces are nothing to him.

Literally how you think about money is a direct correlation to how much you have in your life. So to change this you have to stop thinking lack and start thinking abundance. There is enough money in this world for you to have all you need and more. And here is the kicker, you don't have to win the lottery to do it.

Ok real quick I want to go back to why you want more money. This is where you have to get selfish. Not selfish like lets knock down the other people to get all the money but selfish about what you really want that money for.

Many of us feel that in order to justify the money we have to do good things, charity, donations, helping others with a hand out. This is all great but you have to do what feels right for you. If you are passionate about dog rescue or feeding the hungry or digging wells in third world countries then do that. But if you are just spinning a wheel and giving money to do it, don't.Only do thinks that make you happy. I know for me helping others makes me happy. That is why I do this. I love sharing what I know and seeing others use it to be happier. I give but that is my business and when I do it's because is feels right to me.

With that said.. selfish. What do you want all this money for? Financial freedom? Ok but what does that look like? Is that living in your suburban home and having an extra $1K a month to spend on stuff? Does it mean buying an island in fiji and hiring a staff to take care of you and yours? Write it down and then figure out where you are in the financial spectrum. Are you going to need a few thousand a month more or are we talking millions more a year? Write it down!

Ok now we have a better idea of where we are. So now instead of thinking where is all this money going to come from, you have to start thinking differently. That rent, those braces are paid for already you just have to catch up with that and how you do that is by thinking about them being paid. Yeah, think about and FEEL it. Like Trump would do. He gets the bill and his people pay the bill for him. For now you can picture yourself writing that check or swiping that card.. PAID all done, moving on.

As you start shifting how you picture the end result with your finances you will see things start to shift. You might get some extra money out of the blue. That raise at work comes through and it's on the next paycheck. You get a brain storm about a way to make more money.

When you get clear on what you want the money for and then you start to shift from thoughts of lack to those of abundance things financially will make a shift for you. When you start slipping back just readjust and retrain your mind to think like a rich, financially free person.

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Sunday, July 26, 2015

Choosing To Be Happy

Went on a bit of a road trip yesterday. Me and the husband traveled about two and half hours up to the Seattle area to watch our 13 year old child perform in The Wenatchee Youth Circus. Talk about making the choice to be happy. All these kids from the littles to the adult-teens were all having the time of their lives. Low wire, high wire, trapeze, ladders, teeter boards and clowning. I know I missed a few but they were all bravely doing this in front of a small crowd because they loved it.

Included in all of this was our daughter. She Clowns and is a fill in Ring Mistress. Our daughter in her element, smiling from cheek to cheek. After the show we said our goodbyes to all the Circus members that we had met. I even was recruited to french braid a few heads of hair. We left our daughter with them. She wanted to stay and help them "tear down the lot". Being a part of all the aspects of the circus life is important and she knows that. She had the opportunity to leave with us and skip it all but to her that is all part of the fun and the responsibility.

So after we hugged her and gave her a few bucks for a meal on the road we left our clown and headed home. On the way home we talked about how happy she is and how sad it was that some don't ever find happiness in this world. I am amazed that both of our daughters have managed to find what they love at a young age and both have grabbed ahold.

So the key to happiness is simply to choose it and do it. Happiness isn't a goal, it's a way of life. You get up in the morning and you choose to choose things that make you happy.

There are a million and one excuses not to be happy, to see the crappy side of everything. If you live your life like that.. well then you are making that choice. You don't know that you could take that same energy and redirect it into a better way of looking at things. Now you do.. when you know better you have the opportunity to do better. So it's on you now.


You are unhappy with your job. I say well then get a new job. You say, it's not that easy. I say, WHY? I mean I know you aren't going to find a new job this afternoon, or are you? When was the last time you looked on Craigslist for jobs like yours? Or... Even better when was the last time you looked at what it would take to do that one job you have always wanted to do? Go do it and start to choose happiness. Get some hope going NOW.

Is it really that easy? Yes it really is that easy with all aspects of your life. Does it mean that nothing is going go wrong? No. You will run into obstacles and brick walls. But here is another key. After you yell and scream and throw your fit when your vacation money has to be spent on the auto mechanic to fix the car... Get your butt up, brush it off and start looking for solutions and lessons. It's not about what happens to you but how you handle it that makes you a happy person.

Hope this helps you choose Happiness.